Twenty Requests from Your Child!

  1. Do not fulfill all my requests.  I know quite well that I ought not to have all that I ask for.  I am only testing you.
  2. Do not be afraid to be firm with me.  I prefer it.  It makes me feel more secure.
  3. Do not make me feel smaller than I am.  It only makes me behave stupidly big.
  4. Do not correct me in front of people if you can help it.  I will take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.
  5. Do not be too upset when I say "I hate you".  It isn't you I hate, but the power to thwart me.
  6. Do not make me feel my mistakes are sins.  It upsets my sense of values.
  7. Do not take too much notice of my small ailments.  Sometimes they get me inappropriate attention!
  8. Do not nag.  If you do, I still have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
  9. Do not forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like.  This is why I am not always very accurate.  This may be why I sometimes get angry and frustrated.
  10. Do not make rash promises.  Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
  11. Do not tax my honesty too much.  I am easily frightened into telling lies.
  12. Do not be inconsistent.  That confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
  13. Do not tell me my fears are silly.  They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
  14. Do not put me off when I ask questions.  If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
  15. Do not suggest that you are perfect or infallible.  It makes me feel small when I cannot match up and it gives me too great a shock when I discover you are not.
  16. Do not think it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me.  An honest apology makes me fell surprisingly warm toward you.
  17. Do not forget how quickly I am growing up.  It must be very difficult to keep pace with me but please do try.
  18. Do not forget I love experimenting.  I could not do without it, so please put up with it.
  19. Don not forget to treat me as a human; a person with feelings just like you.
  20. Do not forget that I cannot thrive without lots of understanding love, but I do not need to tell you, do I?